Be a rainbow
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.
It is not necessary to believe in God to be a good person. In a way, the traditional notion of God is outdated. One can be spiritual but not religious. It is not necessary to go to church and give money — for many, nature can be a church. Some of the best people in history do not believe in God, while some of the worst deeds were done in His name.
...when you finally get that call, meet that person, walk that walk, and live that dream ... do you think you'll even care that there were a few dark and scary moments in a journey that made them all possible? ... trust me, you won't even remember. The Universe
"Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud."
And remember Birthdays...